At my parents' house
My mother's garden has a park-like splendour.

"It's been better." she says,

"You should've seen it two months ago."

I remember when this silver birch was little more than a twig

and my father

could hold me in one arm, and no doubt my mother

could too. They dig carefully for photographs these days, skirting around the ones that would sting if touched, but here they are when newly engaged

and here my father's father, in his mason's yard of tombstones and ornamental gravel

and my mother's father as a vigorous man - seconder to his brother Jimmy Wilde in the boxing ring.
Both died too soon for me to know them.

"It's been better." she says,

"You should've seen it two months ago."

I remember when this silver birch was little more than a twig

and my father

could hold me in one arm, and no doubt my mother

could too. They dig carefully for photographs these days, skirting around the ones that would sting if touched, but here they are when newly engaged

and here my father's father, in his mason's yard of tombstones and ornamental gravel

and my mother's father as a vigorous man - seconder to his brother Jimmy Wilde in the boxing ring.
Both died too soon for me to know them.


13 Comments:
Clare,
Thank you very much for sharing this with us.
I find endearing to look at old photographs - I see people's faces and garments and usually find so much hope and delicacy in them. (Look at you mom's collar and brooch!) I am not saying you cannot find hope in contemporary brides and grooms, you definitely can, but in those old pictures "hope" seems to be coupled with innocence, as if they didn't know evil exists.
There was a typo: didn't *exist*.
I think you were right the first time Andreia, weren't you?
I think you are right about the hope and innocence too. For instance people 'courted' then; they don't tend to do that now. They 'date'- and that seems to me to be a more knowing term, less like a dance, more like a cynical series of moves.
I love this type of blog entry, Clare. I love your parents too.
Thanks Susan - yes, looking back I was pretty lucky in the parents stakes.
What a beautiful garden!
Thank you Twitches (on behalf of my mother!) :-)
That sounds like a gardener--knowing the waning toward autumn is lovely but just not the peak. And sounding like a statement about life, gardeners being rulers of life and death.
Interesting to see these, Clare.
Ah, poetic thoughts, Marly. I hadn't thought of this, but yes, spot on! Excellent metaphors.
Beautiful garden, and I see you in your parents.
You're right: the world seems coarsened now, more vulgar. I think of old TV shows, and I know they're offering an idealized version of life, but their ideal is more ideal than our ideal, it seems to me.
'their ideal is more ideal than our ideal' - excellent, I think I'll remember that one.
That is so beautiful Clare. What adorable parents.
Thanks Kay.
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