Friday, August 27, 2010

At my parents' house

My mother's garden has a park-like splendour.


"It's been better." she says,


"You should've seen it two months ago."


I remember when this silver birch was little more than a twig


and my father


could hold me in one arm, and no doubt my mother


could too. They dig carefully for photographs these days, skirting around the ones that would sting if touched, but here they are when newly engaged


and here my father's father, in his mason's yard of tombstones and ornamental gravel


and my mother's father as a vigorous man - seconder to his brother Jimmy Wilde in the boxing ring.

Both died too soon for me to know them.

13 Comments:

Blogger Bordado Inglês said...

Clare,

Thank you very much for sharing this with us.
I find endearing to look at old photographs - I see people's faces and garments and usually find so much hope and delicacy in them. (Look at you mom's collar and brooch!) I am not saying you cannot find hope in contemporary brides and grooms, you definitely can, but in those old pictures "hope" seems to be coupled with innocence, as if they didn't know evil exists.

Fri Aug 27, 09:54:00 PM  
Blogger Bordado Inglês said...

There was a typo: didn't *exist*.

Fri Aug 27, 10:27:00 PM  
Blogger Clare Dudman said...

I think you were right the first time Andreia, weren't you?

I think you are right about the hope and innocence too. For instance people 'courted' then; they don't tend to do that now. They 'date'- and that seems to me to be a more knowing term, less like a dance, more like a cynical series of moves.

Fri Aug 27, 11:40:00 PM  
Blogger Susan said...

I love this type of blog entry, Clare. I love your parents too.

Sat Aug 28, 05:47:00 AM  
Blogger Clare Dudman said...

Thanks Susan - yes, looking back I was pretty lucky in the parents stakes.

Sat Aug 28, 09:04:00 AM  
Blogger twitches said...

What a beautiful garden!

Sat Aug 28, 05:02:00 PM  
Blogger Clare Dudman said...

Thank you Twitches (on behalf of my mother!) :-)

Sat Aug 28, 08:39:00 PM  
Anonymous marly youmans said...

That sounds like a gardener--knowing the waning toward autumn is lovely but just not the peak. And sounding like a statement about life, gardeners being rulers of life and death.

Interesting to see these, Clare.

Sun Aug 29, 02:21:00 PM  
Blogger Clare Dudman said...

Ah, poetic thoughts, Marly. I hadn't thought of this, but yes, spot on! Excellent metaphors.

Sun Aug 29, 04:46:00 PM  
Anonymous Debra Hamel said...

Beautiful garden, and I see you in your parents.

You're right: the world seems coarsened now, more vulgar. I think of old TV shows, and I know they're offering an idealized version of life, but their ideal is more ideal than our ideal, it seems to me.

Mon Aug 30, 06:37:00 PM  
Blogger Clare Dudman said...

'their ideal is more ideal than our ideal' - excellent, I think I'll remember that one.

Mon Aug 30, 07:40:00 PM  
Blogger Kay McKenzie Cooke said...

That is so beautiful Clare. What adorable parents.

Thu Sep 02, 11:16:00 AM  
Blogger Clare Dudman said...

Thanks Kay.

Thu Sep 02, 12:55:00 PM  

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